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Rhinoplasty Society
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Question: I'm about to get a nose job next monday because
I have objectified it as the main source of my lack
of self-confidence. Its out of proportion to the
rest of my sharp, angular features. That and the fact
that society (mostly american, I'll admit) has deemed
large noses an inarguably unattractive feature.
But, I am doing it because I know
it will increase my self esteem, regardless what others think....
However, I am having trouble telling even my good friends
about this, because I feel they might think I'm shallow.
See, I am 6'3", attractive, 143 IQ, excellent musician
and artists, good at physical activities and I have
a great sense of humor and personality. Thats more than
most have, and I know that. Why should I have EVERYTHING?
Why can't I leave the "best nose" category to some other
guy? Because I'm a perfectionist at some level, but
I also have this thing that makes me think all people
are constantly judging me on a physical level. This
has led me to have VERY sparse female encounters (at
least romantic ones.. I have 5-6 of girl - friends..)
It pisses me off because I see such assholes who have
girls lining up at their doors, when guys like me who
truly have a lot to offer sit at home, or end up sitting
alone at clubs.
In fact, New years eve was the only time since high school
I've made out with a girl, (she was hot too!) And I
don't even know how it happened! (besides the fact we
were both really f'd up, and she was an extremely agressive and
experienced girl).
So, I am going to alter my appearance once again with
hopes that taking another step towards my idealized self-image
will allow my personality to sprout through the ice of my
shyness and begin to grow. You can look at my attitude and
say, "you'll still be self-conscious even with a perfect nose,
because it comes from your attitude, not your appearance."
And thats true to some extent. But for a person like me, who is
constantly in deep analytical thought, I'd rather not have
to include even the possibility of my nose being a factor.
Thanks for letting me rant. Comments welcome and invited!
Answer: I'm a perfectionist, too. I was teased about my nose - which has left
me with the belief that people notice it. Thus, it's on my list of
things to get fixed, even though the rest of my face has kind of grown
into it. Also, I have that belief common among shybies that fixing such
things will improve my social life, but it has not worked so far. The
truth is that shybies need to talk - except for those attractive, shy
females (OK, not for every one of them, Prudence :)). At least
'improvements' give me one less thing to be negative about, which might
translate into my appearing a little less unhappy/unapproachable.
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